Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
How to Change Negative Thoughts to Positive Thoughts
Negative thoughts say we have no ability
and we will probably never amount to anything. It is important to discover why
you have these thoughts of no power. There are various causes of inferiority
feelings and a lot of them came from childhood. Perhaps you were overweight or
skinny and kids made fun of you.
Maybe you had a sibling you thought was smarter or better looking or maybe you
came from an abusive family. When you find the cause you need to work on
reprogramming your thought system. It is not easy to reprogram your
thoughts--but it can be done. You need determination to overcome obstacles.
Think of a dog when it has a bone. If someone tries to take it away, the dog
sinks its teeth into the bone. This is the determination you need to achieve
any goal, because you are going to have setbacks along the way. Do not be hard
on yourself when you have setbacks.
Negative thoughts have been in your mind for a long time and you are not going
to change them in a day. You will need to work on your mind everyday and become
aware of your thoughts. Everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks. Think
of each trial as a learning experience and focus on moving forward. What if you
had given up learning to walk because you fell down the first time you stood
up? Here are some tips on thinking positive:
Always picture yourself as succeeding--no matter how badly things seem to be.
If negative thoughts come to mind--voice a positive thought to cancel the
negative.
Do not inflate difficulties with fear thoughts.
Try prayer power--affirmative prayers release powers by which positive results
are accomplished.
Every day write down five things for which you are thankful.
Remember fear only becomes a problem when you receive it and let it control
your life--find something positive every day.
Remember it is not what happens to us but what is in us that settles the
matter.
Press through the pressure and do not let circumstances dictate peace and joy.
Pay yourself a compliment every day.
Stop thinking and speaking fearful negative thoughts--start believing good
things are going to happen. In summary, Remember thoughts are powerful. You
cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.
Positive thoughts are full of faith and hope--they produce positive lives.
Negative thoughts are full of fear and doubt--negative thoughts produce
negative lives. With determination we can change our thoughts from negative to
positive. We don't have to live a miserable life with negative thoughts. There
are a lot of negative thoughts in my mind--I had a difficult childhood and over
the past three years there has been one crisis after another. You feel like you
are living under a black cloud and you will never see the sun.
My resolution has been to work on improving my thoughts. I hope if you are having
problems with negative thoughts, you will decide you don't have to be miserable
anymore and you are not alone with this problem.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Friday, February 24, 2012
Lord Vishnu Teaches Lord Brahma About Time
Lord Vishnu Teaches Lord Brahma About Time
There is a simple story told in folk tales that puts the concept of time into perspective for us. Once there was a conversation between Lord brahma and Sage Narada in the presence of Lord Vishnu. Sage narada asked brahma about the secrets of the universe. While explaining, Lord Brahma started boasting about his immortality and how he knew everything about the universe. Sage Narada praised Brahma, and that made him boast even more. Lord Vishnu kept silent during the whole conversation. After Sage Narada left, Vishnu asked Brahma if he would come to meet someone with him. Lord Brahma was in a very happy mood and obliged.
Vishnu manifested a chariot and asked Brahma to be seated in it. Brahma agreed and was taken by Vishnu to a realm of the universe which Lord Brahma himself didn’t know about. Brahma was starting to slowly lose his ego and looked on in awe at the mysterious surroundings. When the chariot stopped and they got down,Lord Brahma saw a sage sitting and meditating at a distance.
Lord Vishnu went near the sage with Brahma and asked the sage to introduce himself to Lord brahma. The sage explained that he has been meditating here for eons and that when the lifetime of one Lord Brahma comes to an end, one hair of the sage becomes grey and falls off (the sage is said to have a full head of long black hair and has a name denoting the same). And after each hair falls off like this from his head, he will die. Lord Brahma was astounded on listening to this. Lord Brahma had believed till now that he was immortal and that there was no end to his powers.
Then Lord Brahma asked the sage if there are any more such people in this mysterious realm. The sage said that on going ahead there is a sage named ‘Ashtavakra’, who had eight deformities in his body. The sage also added that when all his fair fall off and he dies, one deformity of sage Ashtavakra would be straightened. Lord Brahma was speechless. Vishnu then thanked the sage and went to meet sage Ashtavakra.
Upon enquiring the same questions, Sage Ashtavakra said that there are 108 ashtavakra saints similar to him in this realm. Ashtavakra added that when one ashtavakra was relieved of their deformities and died, one deformity of the next ashtavakra would be straightened. And so on the cycle would keep going. By this time Lord Brahma was on the edge of his senses and couldn’t believe what he was hearing. Then Vishnu left the saint and turned to Lord Brahma and said, “when all these Ashtavakra saints die, the time is not even equivalent to the time I take to blink my eye”. On hearing this, Brahma lost all his ego and bowed down in front of Lord Vishnu.
[The mind-blowing amount of time mentioned here will become even more breathtaking if you relate it with the previous post - Life Expectancy Of Lord Brahma ]
This folktale is often narrated to make people realize the incomprehensibility of time and to make them shed their ego. The normal human mind cannot perceive the wonders of god’s ‘maya’ (illusions). I am not presenting this folktale/legend here to establish whether Lord Brahma or Lord Vishnu is supreme. It is just a simple folktale/legend that advices against ego. It is a good story to tell young kids and cultivate an appreciation of god in them. It will also initiate a sense of fascination in children which can help in making them interested to listen to more scriptures and divine texts.
Please do present your valuable views in the comments section and don’t forget to share it with any youngsters you know of. Om
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Unconditional Love
Unconditional
Love
Be someone who listens... and you will be heard
Be someone who cares... and you will be loved
Be someone who gives... and you will be blessed
Be someone who comforts... and you shall know peace
Be someone who genuinely seeks to understand... and you will be wise
Be someone who is kind... be someone who is considerate… and you will be admired
Be someone who values truth… and you will be respected
Be someone who takes action... and you will move life forward
Be someone who lifts others higher... and your life will be rich
Be someone who is filled with gratitude… and there will be no end for which you’ll be thankful
Be someone who lives with joy… and with purpose
Be someone who shines brightly
Be… in every moment… that special someone… you were truly meant to be !!!!
Contributed by: Shoba Jacob Balachander
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Dew Drops [Theme : Life]
I feel joy at the sight of the dewdrops
Shining on the green grass,
Shimmering by the touch of the warm sunrays,
Gazing at the sky and
Settled on the cheerful blooms.
My cheerful childhood glowed
In the sylvan settlement
Capered in the friendly neighborhoods,
Shimmered by the touch of the
Gentle care and affection of the dear ones,
Gazed at the silver streak striking across the sky.
The dewdrops cuddled up by the rising sun,
Those days are in the past,
Alas, I slouch now in my office
Shining on the green grass,
Shimmering by the touch of the warm sunrays,
Gazing at the sky and
Settled on the cheerful blooms.
My cheerful childhood glowed
In the sylvan settlement
Capered in the friendly neighborhoods,
Shimmered by the touch of the
Gentle care and affection of the dear ones,
Gazed at the silver streak striking across the sky.
The dewdrops cuddled up by the rising sun,
Those days are in the past,
Alas, I slouch now in my office
with walls of sullen gray,
Hope, will be washed by the bright sunrays.
Hope, will be washed by the bright sunrays.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Sunday, February 19, 2012
How many other things are we missing?
Washington, DC,
Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007. The man with a violin played
six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approximately 2 thousand
people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3
minutes, a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his
pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then hurried to meet his
schedule.......
4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.
6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.
10 minutes:
A 3-year-old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.
A 3-year-old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.
45 minutes:
The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money, but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.
The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money, but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.
1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew
this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians
in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a
violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold out a
theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.
 |
| Joshua Bell performing on metro station |
This is a true
story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the Metro Station was organized by the
Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and
people's priorities. The questions raised: in a commonplace environment at an
inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we
recognize talent in an unexpected context?
One possible
conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:
If we do not
have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world,
playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful
instruments ever made...
How many other
things are we missing?
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Know Unreality of Worldly bonds for peace...
Know Unreality of worldly bonds for peace
Spiritual knowledge emphasizes the unreality of these worldly bonds. Your
family members were not related to you in the previous births and will not be
related to you in the future births. These family bonds are present only in
this birth and therefore they are temporary. Anything that is temporary is
always unreal (Yadanityam tat kritakam—Shankara, (Nasato—Gita). The dramatic
bond, which is unreal before and after the drama, is also unreal during the
drama. All human beings, whether they are your family members or outsiders,
have the only relationship with you of being your co-actors.
You cheat an outsider and rob his wealth for the sake of your family members. But both outsiders and your family members are equally related to you as only your co-actors. Why do you then cheat one co-actor and favour another co-actor and earn sin? Your family members will not share your sin. They have not asked you to steal the wealth of others in order to feed them. This was the answer given by the family members of Valmiki, who was a robber and would rob people to feed his family. One day he had tried to rob Sage Narada. Narada had told him to go to his family members and ask them if they would share the sin that he had earned in order to feed them. [Their flat refusal shocked and changed Valmiki forever.]
Lord Krishna started the Gita with the analysis of the self. All the family members are related to this gross body alone in which the blood flows. The self, He referred to in the second chapter of the Gita relates to the causal body along with its subtle body. When you fix the word ‘I’ to the causal body along with the subtle body, all the relationships with the gross body vanish. The Lord compared the gross body to an external garment. This again reveals the unreality of the dramatic bonds that exist with these family members.
You cheat an outsider and rob his wealth for the sake of your family members. But both outsiders and your family members are equally related to you as only your co-actors. Why do you then cheat one co-actor and favour another co-actor and earn sin? Your family members will not share your sin. They have not asked you to steal the wealth of others in order to feed them. This was the answer given by the family members of Valmiki, who was a robber and would rob people to feed his family. One day he had tried to rob Sage Narada. Narada had told him to go to his family members and ask them if they would share the sin that he had earned in order to feed them. [Their flat refusal shocked and changed Valmiki forever.]
Lord Krishna started the Gita with the analysis of the self. All the family members are related to this gross body alone in which the blood flows. The self, He referred to in the second chapter of the Gita relates to the causal body along with its subtle body. When you fix the word ‘I’ to the causal body along with the subtle body, all the relationships with the gross body vanish. The Lord compared the gross body to an external garment. This again reveals the unreality of the dramatic bonds that exist with these family members.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Be A Winner Always...
We get one life, one chance, and one moment in time. There are no retakes,
no re-dos, and no resets. Just one chance. Think about what you really want to
do, what you need to really be happy, and sell out for it. It may be scary but
never be afraid of change. You may lose something good, but you may gain
something even better. This is your one moment. Capture something great.
Lucky means who get the Opportunity.
Brilliant means who create the Opportunity.
Winner means who use the Opportunity.
Be a Winner Always :)))
Lucky means who get the Opportunity.
Brilliant means who create the Opportunity.
Winner means who use the Opportunity.
Be a Winner Always :)))
Life is Like a Cup of Coffee
Life is Like a Cup of Coffee
A group of alumni, highly established in their car...eers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.
Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups! The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Enjoy Life before Life leaves you...
A group of alumni, highly established in their car...eers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.
Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups! The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Enjoy Life before Life leaves you...
Courtesy: Shoba Jacob Balachander
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Six most important words
The six most important words
"I admit that I was wrong!"
The five most important words
"You did a great job."
The four most important words
"What do you think?"
The three most important words
"May I help?"
The two most important words
"Thank you!"
The most important word
"We."
The least important word
"I"
"I admit that I was wrong!"
The five most important words
"You did a great job."
The four most important words
"What do you think?"
The three most important words
"May I help?"
The two most important words
"Thank you!"
The most important word
"We."
The least important word
"I"
Monday, February 13, 2012
WHY NOT TODAY?
The time will
come when you'll have no use for anger or envy, when you will see no need to
hold a grudge or harbor resentment. The time will come when nothing will
frustrate or annoy you, when everything will simply give you more energy to
move positively forward.
The time will come when you'll let go of all bitterness and regret. You'll understand that such negative thoughts have no useful purpose, and that they only serve to hold you back.
There will come a time when you realize that the best way to gain value is to provide value. There will come a time when you stop fighting against life and start living it fully.
In your life, there will come a time when you start living true to your highest vision. The question for you is -- when? The best answer to that question is another question.
The time will come when you'll let go of all bitterness and regret. You'll understand that such negative thoughts have no useful purpose, and that they only serve to hold you back.
There will come a time when you realize that the best way to gain value is to provide value. There will come a time when you stop fighting against life and start living it fully.
In your life, there will come a time when you start living true to your highest vision. The question for you is -- when? The best answer to that question is another question.
WHY
NOT TODAY?
12 GIFTS OF BIRTH
At the wondrous moment you were born, as you took your first breath,
a great celebration was held in the heavens, and twelve magnificent gifts were
granted to you by the angels…
The first gift is Strength… May you remember to call upon it when you need it
The second gift is Beauty… May your deeds reflect its depth
The third gift is Courage… May you speak and act with confidence and use courage to follow your own path.
The fourth gift is Compassion … May
you be gentle with yourself and others. May you forgive
those who hurt you and yourself when you make mistakes.
The fifth gift is Hope… Through each passage and season, may you trust the goodness of life.
The sixth gift is Joy… May it keep your heart open and filled with light.
The seventh gift is Talent… May you discover your own special abilities and contribute them toward a better world.
The eighth gift is Imagination… May it nourish your visions and dreams.
The ninth gift is Reverence… May you appreciate the wonder that you are and the miracle of all creation.
The tenth gift is Wisdom… Guiding your way, wisdom will lead you through knowledge to understanding. May you hear its soft voice.
The eleventh gift is Love… It will grow each time you give it away.
The twelfth gift is Faith… May you believe.
The fifth gift is Hope… Through each passage and season, may you trust the goodness of life.
The sixth gift is Joy… May it keep your heart open and filled with light.
The seventh gift is Talent… May you discover your own special abilities and contribute them toward a better world.
The eighth gift is Imagination… May it nourish your visions and dreams.
The ninth gift is Reverence… May you appreciate the wonder that you are and the miracle of all creation.
The tenth gift is Wisdom… Guiding your way, wisdom will lead you through knowledge to understanding. May you hear its soft voice.
The eleventh gift is Love… It will grow each time you give it away.
The twelfth gift is Faith… May you believe.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Setting the Standard as a Leader
Setting the Standard as a Leader
Some people choose a leadership role or create one when they start a company. Some are asked to supervise, while others are placed in charge with little choice in the decision. Some are just natural leaders who influence others – even though they have no official title. No matter how you find yourself in this position of power, you are a leader of people. You influence others. And with influence comes the responsibility to do what’s best for the organization and the people you lead. Others look to you to set the standard. They rightfully assume that your behavior is the example they should follow… that what you pay attention to is what they should focus on as well.
Here are a few things that you can and should do to set the proper tone (and standards) for your work group:
Some people choose a leadership role or create one when they start a company. Some are asked to supervise, while others are placed in charge with little choice in the decision. Some are just natural leaders who influence others – even though they have no official title. No matter how you find yourself in this position of power, you are a leader of people. You influence others. And with influence comes the responsibility to do what’s best for the organization and the people you lead. Others look to you to set the standard. They rightfully assume that your behavior is the example they should follow… that what you pay attention to is what they should focus on as well.
Here are a few things that you can and should do to set the proper tone (and standards) for your work group:
·
Avoid skepticism – keep an optimistic outlook.
·
Don’t pass the buck – take responsibility for ALL aspects
of your job and leadership role.
·
Own your mistakes – admit to them, fix them, and learn
from them.
·
Follow the rules – know your organization’s guidelines
and the law … and follow them to the letter.
·
Be credible – honor promises, commitments, and
confidentiality.
·
Celebrate successes – do right by those who
DO RIGHT.
·
Listen – always make an effort to hear and understand
what others have to say.
Parable Of The Man And His Dog...
A man went out for a walk with his lovely dog. He was very proud of the dog. It always went before him. This man had an umbrella in his hand. To show the people around him that his pet-dog would do anything for him, he made the dog carry the umbrella between its teeth. And it proudly walked before him, with the middle of the umbrella firmly caught in its teeth. Suddenly it began to rain. The man wanted to make use of the umbrella. But the dog was a hundred yards ahead of him. He ran towards it. The dog, not knowing why the master ran after it unusually, was frightened and ran towards the house at top-speed. The proud man was drenched to the skin, before be could reach the house and recover the umbrella...
The Jiva, blinded by pride and ignorance, entrusts its spiritual consciousness to the mind. For some time the mind seems to walk before and lead the Jiva; and the consciousness is there firmly held by the mind and the Jiva feels that it is safe. There is a heavy shower of miseries of mundane life and temptations of sense-objects. The dog-mind with the umbrella of spiritual consciousness had parted from the Jiva and is separated by great distance.
If the umbrella of spiritual consciousness had not been entrusted to the mind (which incidentally, could not make real use of it), the Jiva could have protected itself from the rain of miseries and temptations. Now, the faster he runs forward to get relief from miseries and temptations, the farther this relief seems to recede.
Thus, O Man, commit not the folly of entrusting thy spiritual wealth and welfare to the defective mind. It is most undependable. It will desert you in the time of trials. Learn to trust in the Lord alone. Make Him thy sole support...
The Jiva, blinded by pride and ignorance, entrusts its spiritual consciousness to the mind. For some time the mind seems to walk before and lead the Jiva; and the consciousness is there firmly held by the mind and the Jiva feels that it is safe. There is a heavy shower of miseries of mundane life and temptations of sense-objects. The dog-mind with the umbrella of spiritual consciousness had parted from the Jiva and is separated by great distance.
If the umbrella of spiritual consciousness had not been entrusted to the mind (which incidentally, could not make real use of it), the Jiva could have protected itself from the rain of miseries and temptations. Now, the faster he runs forward to get relief from miseries and temptations, the farther this relief seems to recede.
Thus, O Man, commit not the folly of entrusting thy spiritual wealth and welfare to the defective mind. It is most undependable. It will desert you in the time of trials. Learn to trust in the Lord alone. Make Him thy sole support...
Saturday, February 11, 2012
13 things to never share or discuss with your co-workers
Most workers don't realize that what they say has as much impact on their professional images as what they wear, Lopeke says. People who say too much, about themselves or others, can be seen as incompetent, unproductive and unworthy of professional development.
To avoid your next case of verbal diarrhea, here are 13 things to never share or discuss with your co-workers.
1. Salary information
What you earn is between you and Human Resources, Solovic says. Disclosure indicates you aren't capable of keeping a confidence.
What you earn is between you and Human Resources, Solovic says. Disclosure indicates you aren't capable of keeping a confidence.
2. Medical history
"Nobody really cares about your aches and pains, your latest operation, your infertility woes or the contents of your medicine cabinet," Lopeke says. To your employer, your constant medical issues make you seem like an expensive, high-risk employee.
"Nobody really cares about your aches and pains, your latest operation, your infertility woes or the contents of your medicine cabinet," Lopeke says. To your employer, your constant medical issues make you seem like an expensive, high-risk employee.
3. Gossip
Whomever you're gossiping with will undoubtedly tell others what you said, Solovic says.. Plus, if a co-worker is gossiping with you, most likely he or she will gossip about you.
Whomever you're gossiping with will undoubtedly tell others what you said, Solovic says.. Plus, if a co-worker is gossiping with you, most likely he or she will gossip about you.
4. Work complaints
Constant complaints about your workload, stress levels or the company will quickly make you the kind of person who never gets invited to lunch, Solovic warns. If you don't agree with company policies and procedures, address it through official channels or move on.
Constant complaints about your workload, stress levels or the company will quickly make you the kind of person who never gets invited to lunch, Solovic warns. If you don't agree with company policies and procedures, address it through official channels or move on.
5. Cost of purchases
The spirit of keeping up with the Joneses is alive and well in the workplace, Lopeke says, but you don't want others speculating on the lifestyle you're living –or if you're living beyond your salary bracket.
The spirit of keeping up with the Joneses is alive and well in the workplace, Lopeke says, but you don't want others speculating on the lifestyle you're living –or if you're living beyond your salary bracket.
6. Intimate details
Don't share intimate details about your personal life. Co-workers can and will use the information against you, Solovic says.
Don't share intimate details about your personal life. Co-workers can and will use the information against you, Solovic says.
7. Politics or religion
"People have strong, passionate views on both topics," Solovic says. You may alienate a co-worker or be viewed negatively in a way that could impact your career.
"People have strong, passionate views on both topics," Solovic says. You may alienate a co-worker or be viewed negatively in a way that could impact your career.
8. Lifestyle changes
Breakups, divorces and baby-making plans should be shared only if there is a need to know, Lopeke says. Otherwise, others will speak for your capabilities, desires and limitations on availability, whether there is any truth to their assumptions or not.
Breakups, divorces and baby-making plans should be shared only if there is a need to know, Lopeke says. Otherwise, others will speak for your capabilities, desires and limitations on availability, whether there is any truth to their assumptions or not.
9. Blogs or social networking profile
What you say in a social networking community or in your personal blog may be even more damaging than what you say in person, Solovic warns. "Comments online can be seen by multiple eyes. An outburst of anger when you are having a bad day … can blow up in your face."
What you say in a social networking community or in your personal blog may be even more damaging than what you say in person, Solovic warns. "Comments online can be seen by multiple eyes. An outburst of anger when you are having a bad day … can blow up in your face."
10. Negative views of colleagues If you don't agree with a co-worker's lifestyle, wardrobe or professional abilities, confront that person privately or keep it to yourself, Lopeke says. The workplace is not the venue for controversy.
11. Hangovers and wild weekends
It's perfectly fine to have fun during the weekend, but don't talk about your wild adventures on Monday, Solovic advises. That information can make you look unprofessional and unreliable.
It's perfectly fine to have fun during the weekend, but don't talk about your wild adventures on Monday, Solovic advises. That information can make you look unprofessional and unreliable.
12. Personal problems and relationships – in and out of the office
"Failed marriages and volatile romances spell instability to an employer," Lopeke says. Office romances lead to gossip and broken hearts, so it's best to steer clear. "The safest way to play is to follow the rule, 'Never get your honey where you get your money.'"
"Failed marriages and volatile romances spell instability to an employer," Lopeke says. Office romances lead to gossip and broken hearts, so it's best to steer clear. "The safest way to play is to follow the rule, 'Never get your honey where you get your money.'"
13. Off-color or racially charged comments
You can assume your co-worker wouldn't be offended or would think something is funny, but you might be wrong, Solovic says. Never take that risk. Furthermore, even if you know for certain your colleague wouldn't mind your comment, don't talk about it at work. Others can easily overhear.
You can assume your co-worker wouldn't be offended or would think something is funny, but you might be wrong, Solovic says. Never take that risk. Furthermore, even if you know for certain your colleague wouldn't mind your comment, don't talk about it at work. Others can easily overhear.
Aseem Kaistha
It's your attitude and not your aptitude that determines your altitude.
Angry...
Once a student came to his Master and complained:
"Master, I have an ungovernable temper. I get angry every now & then.
How can I control & cure it?"
Master said, "Oh! You have a very strange
problem, Just show me & let me see what problem do you have."
Student said "Just now I cannot show it to
you."
O.K. "When can you show it to me?"
asked the Master.
"It arises unexpectedly," replied the
student.
Master said, "Then, it must not be your own
true nature. If it were, you could show it to me at any time. When you were
born you did not have it, and your parents did not give it to you. Your true
nature is Soul nature in which all the calm & peace is there, just think
over it."
We all know that getting angry is not good in our
life but all of us get angry at some point of time in life. Why at times our
mind gets violent & anger is expressed in our nature? In a state of anger
we hurt our near & dear one's mind by speaking angry words. When anger gets
out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems for oneself, as
well as, for others also. In the state of anger we are at the mercy of an
unpredictable and powerful emotion which if not controlled by us does harm only
to our life. If anger is not controlled, it can lead to physiological, as well
as, psychological problems in our life.
Now how we can control this anger? Basically, to
control anger is to first control & calm your mind. If your mind remains in
a state of calm then no negative emotions can arouse in it. To be peaceful at
mind, the easiest way is that we let our mind delve inside our own inner Soul
nature rather than hankering after outside worldly objects i.e. we should daily
do some meditation, as in meditation mind becomes peaceful. If mind
continuously runs after outside worldly things then it gets disturbed when the
thing of desire is not attained. When the mind gets disturbed in this way then
anger arouses in the mind & it leads to negative consequences only. When
you close your eyes in meditation, you start delving inside your inner nature.
What is your inner nature? It's nothing but your Soul inside, where you delve
in times of meditation & attain peace. In Soul, there is peace only. Now
your Soul is nothing but part & parcel of Universal Soul only. Universal
Soul is nothing but God only, who is ultimate peace.
THIS IS LIFE !
When there
is no friend,
When world is not a paradise,
When your confidence dies,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When things don't go right,
When there is no ray of light,
And its too hard to survive,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When there is competition to face,
When you are lagging behind in the race,
When you've lost faith in God,
When you're betrayed by a fraud,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When others don't respect you,
When you're not amongst the admirable few,
When for a question, you can't find a solution,
When all you're sure about, is confusion,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When your destination is miles apart,
When you don't know where to start,
When all you see around is pain,
When your hardwork is in vain,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
Even though all this happens
just have faith in self & face the life with smile,
Things will surely change one day
Because as said "THIS IS LIFE ... !
When world is not a paradise,
When your confidence dies,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When things don't go right,
When there is no ray of light,
And its too hard to survive,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When there is competition to face,
When you are lagging behind in the race,
When you've lost faith in God,
When you're betrayed by a fraud,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When others don't respect you,
When you're not amongst the admirable few,
When for a question, you can't find a solution,
When all you're sure about, is confusion,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
When your destination is miles apart,
When you don't know where to start,
When all you see around is pain,
When your hardwork is in vain,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!
Even though all this happens
just have faith in self & face the life with smile,
Things will surely change one day
Because as said "THIS IS LIFE ... !
Friday, February 10, 2012
Even the birds know...
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Our friendship's so amazing
The birds all have to sing,
They know that what we have
Is such a special thing!
I knew it ever since the start,
From the very day I met you,
That we'd be the most perfect friends.
I hope that you did too!!
Things are just as I had thought,
For you're always oh so kind;
I know that I can count on you,
And that grants such peace of mind!
Thank you for always being there for me!
The birds all have to sing,
They know that what we have
Is such a special thing!
I knew it ever since the start,
From the very day I met you,
That we'd be the most perfect friends.
I hope that you did too!!
Things are just as I had thought,
For you're always oh so kind;
I know that I can count on you,
And that grants such peace of mind!
Thank you for always being there for me!
Precious memories
You can't buy precious memories
With silver or with gold,
They come to us without a price
As the years of life unfold.
I've longed for many things in life,
some with hidden thorns of pain.
Knowing what was best for me,
God sent both sunshine and rain.
Hard times teach us to appreciate
Good times when they come along,
If all of life was fun and pleasure,
How could we ever grow strong?
God in His infinite wisdom
has given me many good years,
taught me to suffer with others,
to feel their sorrows and tears.
So if you want precious memories
As the years of life unfold,
Learn how to love one another,
It's worth more than silver or gold.
With silver or with gold,
They come to us without a price
As the years of life unfold.
I've longed for many things in life,
some with hidden thorns of pain.
Knowing what was best for me,
God sent both sunshine and rain.
Hard times teach us to appreciate
Good times when they come along,
If all of life was fun and pleasure,
How could we ever grow strong?
God in His infinite wisdom
has given me many good years,
taught me to suffer with others,
to feel their sorrows and tears.
So if you want precious memories
As the years of life unfold,
Learn how to love one another,
It's worth more than silver or gold.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
The Rainbow...
The Rainbow...
Rainbows appear after mighty storms,
When things look their very worst,
Just when the skies are darkest gray,
Look for the rainbow first.
When things look their very worst,
Just when the skies are darkest gray,
Look for the rainbow first.
The rainbow is a sign of God's promise,
That He will guide us through any storm,
That He will see us through all our troubles,
No matter what their form.
That He will guide us through any storm,
That He will see us through all our troubles,
No matter what their form.
When you feel battered by life's storms,
And you are filled with doubt and dismay;
Just remember God's rainbow is coming -
It's only a prayer away.
And you are filled with doubt and dismay;
Just remember God's rainbow is coming -
It's only a prayer away.
- Author Unknown –
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Failure doesn’t mean...
Failure doesn't mean – you are a
failure,
It means – you have not succeeded.
Failure doesn't mean – you accomplished nothing,
Failure doesn't mean – you accomplished nothing,
It means – you have learned something.
Failure doesn't mean – that you have been a fool,
Failure doesn't mean – that you have been a fool,
It means – you had a lot of faith.
Failure doesn't mean – you’ve been disgraced,
Failure doesn't mean – you’ve been disgraced,
It means – you were willing to try.
Failure doesn't mean – you don’t have it,
Failure doesn't mean – you don’t have it,
It means – you have to do something in a
different way.
Failure doesn't mean – you are inferior,
Failure doesn't mean – you are inferior,
It means -- you are not perfect.
Failure doesn't mean – you’ve wasted your life,
Failure doesn't mean – you’ve wasted your life,
It means – you have a reason to start
afresh.
Failure doesn't mean – you should give up,
Failure doesn't mean – you should give up,
It means – you must try harder.
Failure doesn't mean – you’ll never make it,
Failure doesn't mean – you’ll never make it,
It means – it will
take a little longer.
Failure doesn't mean – God has abandoned you.
Failure doesn't mean – God has abandoned you.
It means – God has a better way for you.
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