See Good Be Good...

Once a lady in a house saw her new neighbour hang the clothes for drying through her window. She thought for herself that her neighbour is very dirty and is not washing the clothes properly, as the hung clothes had stain and dirt even after washing. She observed the same for months together, and thus nick named her new neighbor as 'The Unclean lady'. Then suddenly one fine day, she found the clothes of her neighbour sparkling bright, and immediately reported the same to her husband. Her husband just smiled at her. When the wife wanted to know the reason for his smile, he simply replied, "It's only today that I have cleaned our glass windows after a long time. So you are able to see through it clearly now."

Same is the case with us. We have so many dirt accumulated within us, and instead of purifying ourselves first, we constantly try to find fault in others. While warning her father Daksha for finding faults in Lord Siva, Mother Parvati says in Srimad Bhagavatam verse 4.4.12

doshaan pareshaam hi guneshu saadhavo
grhnanti kecin na bhavaadrsho dvija
gunaams ca phalgun bahuli-karishnavo
mahattamaas teshv avidad bhavaan agham

"Twice-born Daksha, a man like you can simply find fault in the qualities of others. Lord Siva, however, not only finds no faults with others' qualities, but if someone has a little good quality, he magnifies it greatly. Unfortunately, you have found fault with such a great soul.


"We ourselves are to be blamed. We many times blame others because the construction of our body is such that we can only see others. I can see your face very clearly. However hard I try, I can’t see my face. I can see the reflection on the mirror but it is not the real face. Because of this bodily construction, we have a permanent tendency to blame others for our own defects and we always point our fingers at others. 


Frankly speaking, nobody does anything. We are the ones who are completely wrong. When you point fingers at others, you see that one finger is towards others and three fingers are towards you. So why to worry about one? Worry about three. When we start blaming ourselves, the whole thing completely subsides...